Black Out
The blurb: A short film about the intersection of sexuality and race.
This short film packs quite a metaphoric punch. It discusses the kink practice of choking within the context of an interracial relationship.
A quick safety note: Experts say there is no safe way to engage in sexual choking (strangulation). But if you are engaging in this practice, it should absolutely be consensual and with good communication and safewords in place. Read more.
Starring Wonder Dave and Jet Noir.
Written By Wonder Dave.
For more from the artists who created this video visit
Wonder Dave wonderdave.org/
Jet Noir youtube.com/c/jetnoir and japplin2.wix.com/jetnoir
The text of the poem is below.
Black out
A black man has his hands around my throat
This is not a metaphor.
I am not in danger.
I like to be choked during sex.
The man doing the choking in this case is black.
The sheets tumble around us.
He pins me down.
He grips my throat.
I try to snarl out a word but even something simple like
fucking animal
runs the risk of sounding racist.
That would be embarrassing.
I am frightened.
He is choking me. I like it. This frightens me.
Since I am being choked
there is no safe word.
If I tap three times that signals stop.
We have done this before.
I trust him. I might be falling in love.
I think this while his hands are at my neck.
I am frightened. I think love.
Sometimes my eyes roll back into my head
because I let things go too far.
If I died while he was choking me,
if I didn’t tap out quick enough
cause it felt too good,
if I died he would risk being a black man
with his finger prints on a dead white body.
His risk is far worse than embarrassment.
My eyes begin to roll.
Afterwards he says in his best joking about a serious thing tone
Quick fucking around I don’t want to end up in jail.
The chuckle in his throat is heavy.
I promise him I’ll tap out quicker the next time.
Dear audience ignore all the weird sex and walk away with the lesson:
When a black man is choking me
I have to promise to keep him safe.
Length: 2:54
Director: Jamie DeWolf
Year: 2016